moorey
call me Mia
I still don't understand what marriage has to do with this?
Little Things You Hate
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safreek
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Once the bit of paper is there it does actually make a big difference. She wanted to be around family forever, I wanted our own life.
Not sure whether you understand the person and paper are one and the same, provided you believe in loyalty
safreek
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Hopefully you read the last bit I wrote, if I married her it would of meant being stuck where she wanted to live, I don't believe in divorce either but what happens when I wish to move to the city. Only thing it means breaking up wouldn't it. No point being married and living in different places.
moorey
call me Mia
Lol, lectures on loyalty and commitment from the supercoach. Gold.
Long term relationship breakups can be equally messy with or without a bit of paper. If you don't want to get married, don't, but your reasoning, logic and justification around it, and your judgement of those who do, is a pisser.
moorey
call me Mia
I want you to re-read that when you're sober.
DMan
shawly the least hangeriest guy on rotorburn
Fuck that made me laugh. You've made my morning.
Ultra Lord
Hurts. Requires Money. And is nerdy.
Can confirm through personal experience you don’t need marriage papers to qualify for lawyers if a long term relationship goes belly up.
I skipped the party and vows and went straight to “binding financial agreement” courtesy of ex Mrs Ultra.
Like the solicitor said, true love is temporary, divorce lasts forever. It’s the same process as a married couple separating if your defacto.
moorey
call me Mia
Yep. Watching an unmarried mate currently going through with this. Only the lawyers will win.
Seen the same with married couples of course, as you say, defacto/married, same same.
Of course. Saffy will have a prenup for even a defacto. Aint no one getting that sweet crypto or cannondales...
droenn
Fat Man's XC President
Going through this atm too, definitely don't need to be married to enjoy the wonderful legal processes of separation and property settlement.
Marriage only exists as a societal expectation. That, and reinforcing the patriarchy.
safreek
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Sorry to here that, I'm more talking about the paper making your life intertwined, not in the financial sense.
Hope you win
safreek
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Never with the prenuptial, to be honest any long term relationship I have had in the past I have been more than happy to hand over the bulk of assets, why do you think I have fuck all now.
If I won millions I would most likely hand a couple of them a wad of cash. I have only ever left one relationship on bad terms. I guess I'm pretty lucky really
Chriso_29er
Likes Bikes and Dirt
That's crap Mick. Hope you and the family start to feel a bit better soon.
safreek
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You are correct, but only out of desperation.
safreek
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No, you don't know the full story.
Unfortunately some people stay in places because of family ties, they don't consider their own safety.
Fuck fighting an ex whenever he feels like getting drunk and starting trouble.
Ultra Lord
Hurts. Requires Money. And is nerdy.
Even if things go smoothly, it’s still shit. I feel for you mate.
Theres no winning. I kept the house I bought, still left me feeling hollow. Just took time to get over it.
safreek
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Just never found a need for bitterness, only one girlfriend do I hold bitterness towards, totally justified.
When a relationship is over you should covet the great times and not mull the bad times
pink poodle
気が狂っている男
Yes...the pressure to conform is still a very real expressed thing, same as having children. From my casual observations both seem more frequent for woman. I still cop both (in my mid 40s for fuck's sake...) from most angles (not just family) directly and indirectly. I think mum has finally given up on me siring any grandchildren. Dad is about the only one who hasn't ever hassled me.
