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@beeb recently used a drop-shipper in Deutschland?
I did. If you can, ask the seller for exact dimensions and weight of the package they're going to send out. I
ever so slightly underestimated the weight of the parcel they sent, and it cost half as much again to ship. I also paid up for the DHL Express - so costs were significantly higher - but "only" took ~3 weeks and the parcel was at least somewhat insured.
Unless you can get exact dimensions/weights - forget about the quote process IMO. Unless you want basic, uninsured, ocean shipping - just get ready to bend and spread and wait for the pain to stop. The fee structure was/is very opaque, I asked for a picture of the parcel and extra protective packaging "if required". Took payment up front for both, they then re-packed it and sent me a picture of that box. In hindsight it was a "lost in translation" thing, but still annoying. I used Mailbox.de and a lightweight XC shock, in retail packaging and a slightly larger box (~500g IIRC) cost €109.69 - yep, 109.69
Euro.
With the lower retail price of the shock through Ze Germans, plus their VAT and shipping meant the total delivered price of the shock was still about the same as buying locally (if stock had been available).