Use good quality suspension oil in the damper. Note: oil ratings like 5wt, 10wt etc. can be quite inaccurate. One oil company's 5wt may be similar to another company's 10wt. Read
this article for a good explaination and a useful table listing most commonly available suspension fluids. The table will allow you to see how close an available fluid may be to what the manf. recommends for your fork.
For non-damper oil, like that used to lubricate the lowers, the general consensus is that a good quality synthetic motor oil (like Mobil 1) will actually be better than using heavy wt suspension fluid. This "splash oil" only needs to make things slippery. Suspension fluid doesn't offer the ultimate in slipperiness because its engineered to provide consistent damping with only sufficient lubricating properties to stop your damper destroying itself.
For RS forks, use a teflon/silicon based suspension grease to lube the air spring seal head. Do not use oil, it will migrate quickly below the air piston. For Manitou forks with a quad seal (not o-ring like RS forks) on the air piston, use oil.