So a bit of a dig/revive here, but I need the help of you fellow farkers!
Basically my girlfriend of 18months has applied to head to the Army which has really hit me hard. She'll be leaving in January-February provided she passes psych assessment and her physical (may not even happen considering a doctor suggested a knee reconstruction on both knees a few years back) for a period of 2-4 years (she's undecided as of yet, but leaning towards 2 years as she can always sign up for longer). I've not taken the news well at all as I couldn't comprehend moving away from her and it's been effecting us of late. I've been really short with her,pretty agitated and pretty firey too with regards to life in general. Over the past few days I've been really up and down to the point where we almost broke up today and we've decided that things need to change on both our parts if we're to continue.
I'm more at ease with the whole situation since she's layed her cards on the table (this afternoon) and I now know where we stand so to speak (I've told her how I felt all along). Over the past month or so she's kept the majority of it to herself in fear of me being upset (justifiably so) which has been frustrating and as a byproduct created more problems.
As it stands, we are now both on the same level and I feel much better about the whole situation, she's always had itchy feet and felt the need to go away but now its accumulated to the point where she can't stay put any longer.
In short I think I'm gonna have to give the whole long distance thing a go, after much thinking and contemplating I'm pretty sure I'd kick myself if I didn't at least try. Has anyone here got any tips and suggestions to deal with a loved one moving away, or even experiences with a spouse in the forces?
Cheers all!