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May I suggest shitting your pants while you work?even had the chick boss say need to go to the toilet in my own time.
May I suggest shitting your pants while you work?even had the chick boss say need to go to the toilet in my own time.
Never ever get your meat at the same place you get your bread..... their friends are fair game however...Just be a jerk and they'll be all over you. Mr nice guy will get you stomped on.
very true but technically she hasn't worked with me for a month or so and she friends with the chick i work with. so does that count as friends are fair gameNever ever get your meat at the same place you get your bread..... their friends are fair game however...
I'm in a similar situation. I think it's normal. I still love my girl no end but is she me? Not at all. I'm good friends with another girl who is 'more like me' but a short time ago I realised there's a reason we have friends. It would be nice for a partner to be absolutely everything you could possibly want, but I know in my mind, no matter what, I'd probably still be in the same situation.Now my missus is a genuinely lovely person but is that enough in the long term? Or will the fact that we are inherently different people be our demise in the end?
So I'm at a crossroads in my relationship and get some advice from the collective (ahem) wisdom of Rotorburn.
I've been with my missus for nearly 5 years now and I've recently started to notice that we are very different people. Had one of the best weekends I've had in a long time a few months back, rock climbing, riding bikes, diving, general awesomeness and the missus didn't feature in any of it. She doesn't have any real hobbies to speak of and I have so much sporting/outdoor gear it takes up an entire room and then some, if it looks like fun I'll give it a go, she's happy watching TV or hanging out with friends. I'm captain spontaneous and it's just effort to her. I've tried to include her in my hobbies, bought her running gear, a mountain bike, rock climbing gear (most of which I've since given to a girl at work but more on that later) none of which has ever been used.
It's always the same story too, "Want to come climbing honey?" "Yeah I'll give it a go and see if I like it." Never happens.
To add a spanner to the works I've become quite friendly with a girl at work (just friends) who climbs and is generally an adventurous type and I seem to be making more plans with her than my missus. Great example is she recently discovered the Avon descent, a 140something Km kayak race, despite neither of us having any real paddling experience there's a fairly good chance we'll be doing it next year. Seems like a challenge and an adventure, why not. Not something my missus would even consider doing. I also go running with said girl from work once a week, it's lovely, lost track of the number of times I've asked my missus if she wants to come for a run with me.
Now my missus is a genuinely lovely person but is that enough in the long term? Or will the fact that we are inherently different people be our demise in the end?
Usually not very good, I tend to make her spew! Lol. I do love running with her though, she constantly suprises me with just how far she's willing to push herself. But nothing will ever happen there, we are just good friends, aside from the fact that she has a boyfriend and to be honest she's waayyyy out of my league.How doe this girl feel when she runs with you?
This is also my longest relationship so I don't know what to expect anymore. I think you might be right though, it's just that it feels very strange calling it quits when you still care about someone and there's nothing really wrong with the relationship. I'm just wondering if we are wasting each others time right now being in an okay relationship that's only going to end one day anyway. What if we stay together for another 2 years in which time her ideal partner could have come and gone and by the time we break up it's too late.I def think there has to some common interest that you and partner share otherwise i couldn't see it working out. if youre having youre doubts know i think that might be telling what you knew all along you aren't right for each other
well you know what is right for you. My mate was in the same situation he had been with chick for on and off for 6 years , engaged broken up every month or so. so really they were train wreck from the beginningThis is also my longest relationship so I don't know what to expect anymore. I think you might be right though, it's just that it feels very strange calling it quits when you still care about someone and there's nothing really wrong with the relationship. I'm just wondering if we are wasting each others time right now being in an okay relationship that's only going to end one day anyway. What if we stay together for another 2 years in which time her ideal partner could have come and gone and by the time we break up it's too late.
It's just me and a buddy going to Antarctica. Where we're going there's no chance of rescue so if it goes really pear-shaped we aren't coming home. Neither of us want to be responsible for anyone else in that situation, which includes my missus (who doesn't want to come) and running buddy (who does want to come).We would have difficulty understanding why the other person would want to go to Antarctica alone or with someone else. -Snip- But talk to your running buddy about the way you feel. Tactfully. She may have similar concerns.
It's the worst. I like some space....but I think being joined at the hip would be a bit much after a while, for me at least.
This is also my longest relationship so I don't know what to expect anymore. I think you might be right though, it's just that it feels very strange calling it quits when you still care about someone and there's nothing really wrong with the relationship. I'm just wondering if we are wasting each others time right now being in an okay relationship that's only going to end one day anyway. What if we stay together for another 2 years in which time her ideal partner could have come and gone and by the time we break up it's too late.
Now my missus is a genuinely lovely person but is that enough in the long term? Or will the fact that we are inherently different people be our demise in the end?
If you have found someone who you find has a lovely personality, don't let them go, this is a very important attribute and don't take it for granted. I also think that having doubts is a normal and can be good thing.Still, my girlfriend is lovely and I'm not unhappy with her but I don't know if I'm happy either. Some of the best moments in my life won't be shared with my missus.
I genuinely don't think she is interested in me so I don't think that's it."Not going near that one" = "You need to figure that out for yourself, I won't be the one to tell you to drop her. If it's going to be us some day, I want it to be on terms where the end of your previous relationship wasn't done by me."
No girl wants to be the bit on the side while you figure out what you want.