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ex offender
Your life sucks. So does mine. We are currently operating at about 1% of capacity.
Now we've got that out of the way, time to start fixing it up. It's 3am where I am and I'm on a mountain bike forum looking for some form of self enlightenment, so we're not off to a great start, but I need direction from somewhere, and it might as well come in the form of my internet alter ego yelling at me from across the same room I'm sitting in via my computer screen.
So every day, I'm going to do something that scares me, worries me, concerns me, or makes me uncomfortable in some way other than shaving rash. I'm going to hold myself publicly accountable to reduce my ability to talk myself out of stuff, hence doing this on the internet instead of privately.
THE RULES
1. You must set yourself ONE thing to do each day, every day for one calendar month from the time you take this up. Even if you know you'll suck at it, fail in some way or feel scared the whole time.
2. You can set yourself up to a week's worth of daily ahead of time. No more. Only one per day, extra achievements are bonuses. Feel free to use your psychological momentum if you want to go nuts on a particular day but do not schedule more than one thing per day.
3. Your objective needs to be REALISTIC and ACHIEVABLE. It can be freaking tiny, it can be trivial, it can be completely ridiculous sounding. Never talked to your next door neighbour? No better time than now.
4. You MUST FOLLOW THROUGH. No excuses.
5. There is only one excuse - that you're dead. All other excuses are invalid. They DO NOT EXIST.
6. If you can't try a certain thing because it was quite specific and circumstances beyond your control changed to make it impossible, you must try something else. Say you wanted to talk to a certain girl but she wasn't at school/work/wherever, you gotta man up and do something else instead.
7. You may set the same goal as many times as you like, as long as you still find it uncomfortable, scary or whatever.
So here's my next few days' worth.
1. Sun. Go out to a specific local bar after work, sober. Stay for at least 30 minutes and meet at least one new person. Do not drink.
2. Mon. Make at least 3 serious enquiries about a new job, pushing for a second point of contact (interview, contact number, whatever) with each.
3. Tues. If I can ski, try to ski backwards for over 100m nonstop. Otherwise, start a conversation with a random girl on the street in town, get her to say the word "quack" out loud.
4. Wed. Organise some kind of social gathering and invite people. Something I haven't done anywhere near enough lately. Even if it's just drinks at the pub with two mates.
Feel free to quote and reply to your own posts with your goals and how you went with them. It's time to man up. Get stuck into it.
Now we've got that out of the way, time to start fixing it up. It's 3am where I am and I'm on a mountain bike forum looking for some form of self enlightenment, so we're not off to a great start, but I need direction from somewhere, and it might as well come in the form of my internet alter ego yelling at me from across the same room I'm sitting in via my computer screen.
So every day, I'm going to do something that scares me, worries me, concerns me, or makes me uncomfortable in some way other than shaving rash. I'm going to hold myself publicly accountable to reduce my ability to talk myself out of stuff, hence doing this on the internet instead of privately.
THE RULES
1. You must set yourself ONE thing to do each day, every day for one calendar month from the time you take this up. Even if you know you'll suck at it, fail in some way or feel scared the whole time.
2. You can set yourself up to a week's worth of daily ahead of time. No more. Only one per day, extra achievements are bonuses. Feel free to use your psychological momentum if you want to go nuts on a particular day but do not schedule more than one thing per day.
3. Your objective needs to be REALISTIC and ACHIEVABLE. It can be freaking tiny, it can be trivial, it can be completely ridiculous sounding. Never talked to your next door neighbour? No better time than now.
4. You MUST FOLLOW THROUGH. No excuses.
5. There is only one excuse - that you're dead. All other excuses are invalid. They DO NOT EXIST.
6. If you can't try a certain thing because it was quite specific and circumstances beyond your control changed to make it impossible, you must try something else. Say you wanted to talk to a certain girl but she wasn't at school/work/wherever, you gotta man up and do something else instead.
7. You may set the same goal as many times as you like, as long as you still find it uncomfortable, scary or whatever.
So here's my next few days' worth.
1. Sun. Go out to a specific local bar after work, sober. Stay for at least 30 minutes and meet at least one new person. Do not drink.
2. Mon. Make at least 3 serious enquiries about a new job, pushing for a second point of contact (interview, contact number, whatever) with each.
3. Tues. If I can ski, try to ski backwards for over 100m nonstop. Otherwise, start a conversation with a random girl on the street in town, get her to say the word "quack" out loud.
4. Wed. Organise some kind of social gathering and invite people. Something I haven't done anywhere near enough lately. Even if it's just drinks at the pub with two mates.
Feel free to quote and reply to your own posts with your goals and how you went with them. It's time to man up. Get stuck into it.
