This is probably the first time i've paid any attention to this thread, as a rule i find mental health confusing and difficult to relate to.
Recently tho, my wifey has gently nudged me along the path to get looked at for ADHD (i know, doesn't really fit the same stuff as usually discussed here. i think). a friend of hers got diagnosed and it piqued my interest a little, then when i said i think i should look into it, wifey swiftly kicked me up the ass and told me to get out there and do it (so possibly not the gentlest of nudges).
Just got back from my 3rd appointment up the chain, and they had absolutely zero doubt - i'm ADHD as fark, zero grey area.
I really had no proper idea about the condition previously, yeah i struggle to concentrate and vague out all the time, but always had it in my head that ADHD meant you were constantly bouncing off the walls which isn't always the case with me. tentatively went and saw the docs to discuss it (hardest part was that first step), they pointed me at a mental health practitioner who told me to see a psych and to look into the condition more, and the floodgates were opened.
The best thing is working out that i can cut myself a little slack, and that there's a very good reason behind a lot of the things i've struggled with as far back as i can remember. I've learnt a crazy amount about myself in the last few weeks of information and reflection. an overwhelming amount even that is super difficult to properly articulate and any attempt usually results in frustration as about 50 things try to get out all at once. started with a few "what is ADHD" videos, and started realizing i was ticking all the boxes, like ALL of them. then moved on to specific aspects, and strategies to combat the issues and just sat there nodding my head and laughing at all the stuff that i'm finding out a lot of other people are struggling with too.
There's a load thats been lifted today after the psych appointment. I can look forward to treatment, that i hear is spectacularly effective. and be more mindful of things, which i'm already finding effective. and just ease up on the self criticism, which is an amazing feeling.
There's probably a few burners out there with this, possibly in this thread (but you know, reading and finding it? nah)
I've found the "how to ADHD" series of videos super helpful. usually put them on in the car and listen to them while i'm driving (because sitting and watching them properly? nah)
Thanks boys and girls, good to get it out