moorey
call me Mia
Absolutely nothing.
Nor is being on the spectrum.
Nor is being neither.
Nor is being both.
Black Dogs and mental shit in general
- Thread starter PINT of Stella. mate!
- Start date
Nor is being on the spectrum.
Nor is being neither.
Nor is being both.
The Duckmeister
Has a juicy midrange
It would be really boring if no one had quirks.
cokeonspecialtwodollars
Fartes of Portingale
It'd sure be lonely around here.
moorey
call me Mia
If there was ever an ASD collection point, it would be here.
yuley95
soft-arse Yuley is on the lifts again
good luck mate. I really admire how aware and articulate you are about your struggles with this. I know it doesn’t help but got a heap of respect for you and wishing you well.
Rorschach
Didnt pay $250 for this custom title
Thanks mate, appreciate it
In all honesty, I wrote my initial post because I wanted to get it out there and the only person I'd spoken to about it was my wife. No one in my personal circle knows anything about it and honestly I don't feel like I can share it with them yet.
While it was very cathartic, it was mainly a route getting it off my chest, however the messages and support I got from the guys on here has really helped and made me feel better about my decisions and given me a route and courage to talk about it behind the anonymity of the internet.
If anyone gets the courage to seek help from me posting here then I'll be made up.
Cardy George
Piercing rural members since 1981
After two Aspie kids, one mine and one from another father, and a family history of 'quirky', we joined the dots for Mrs George at about the same age. The world made much more sense to her afterwards too. She had spent so long trying to fit in, and it was only when she met me and I convinced her it was OK that she started to be herself. The (self) diagnosis took away the last of that need to fit in.
Last edited:
Rorschach
Didnt pay $250 for this custom title
I went and saw the psych yesterday and she seems to have things pretty nailed on.
As a side, number 2 arrived early on Sunday, so despite being wiped, the Mrs and I decided I should keep the appointment as he’s been pretty cruisy so far (other than having some wind he couldn’t shake last night and being up til about 4)
The psych said it sounds like I have a background constant depression that I’ve been operating with pretty much my whole life and coupled with new baby and toddler troubles I was working myself up into almost a panic attack when things got too much for me. She also says I have self esteem issues and lack of motivation.
None of this is really news to me, but it’s good to have it recognised in a professional context. This is only an hour session but she got to things pretty quickly.
She’s asked me to get a full set of bloods done as sometimes there are things that I can take to rebalance anything. She also suggested that as it’s been going on for a while, talking may not help as much as if I was having a more localised episode and that drugs may be something to look into.
She said that I should do things I enjoy if I can (although I struggled to find something I really enjoy more than 5/10 at the minute), and maybe try and get outside if I can.
I’ve got a docs appointment to try and get bloods on Monday before I see her again.
As a side, number 2 arrived early on Sunday, so despite being wiped, the Mrs and I decided I should keep the appointment as he’s been pretty cruisy so far (other than having some wind he couldn’t shake last night and being up til about 4)
The psych said it sounds like I have a background constant depression that I’ve been operating with pretty much my whole life and coupled with new baby and toddler troubles I was working myself up into almost a panic attack when things got too much for me. She also says I have self esteem issues and lack of motivation.
None of this is really news to me, but it’s good to have it recognised in a professional context. This is only an hour session but she got to things pretty quickly.
She’s asked me to get a full set of bloods done as sometimes there are things that I can take to rebalance anything. She also suggested that as it’s been going on for a while, talking may not help as much as if I was having a more localised episode and that drugs may be something to look into.
She said that I should do things I enjoy if I can (although I struggled to find something I really enjoy more than 5/10 at the minute), and maybe try and get outside if I can.
I’ve got a docs appointment to try and get bloods on Monday before I see her again.
ashes_mtb
Has preferences
Congrats on the arrival of no.2!
Hopefully having a game plan from the psych visit is helpful, I’ve always found it gives me a pretty good lift up to have something to focus on.
yuley95
soft-arse Yuley is on the lifts again
This is exactly why mountain biking remains a priority for me. I’m fortunate that i have not experienced the same challenges to the same degree that you have but there have been some tough times - especially while my second kid was still under 2yo. Through that whole time though I have prioritised getting out once a week for a few hours on my bike. I get outside, do something I enjoy, get exercise and meditate on the trail (cant think about much else while hustling down a trail at Mach 10).
I actually think that contact with nature/the bush is one of the most important aspects in all of that.
If I dont ride for a week, things always get worse...
caad9
Likes Bikes and Dirt
This is it.
If you are interested in mountain biking, you probably enjoy the freedom and escape that it provides.
If riding your bike is too time consuming or you are not motivated for it, a walk amongst nature or even an hour on a picnic rug could do the trick.
Of course this is easier said than done when you have to leave your partner to make that happen.
Hope your partner understands!
I often get trapped in a cycle of not doing the things I want because I don't want to abandon the family for a day, but also getting down because I can't do the things I want. It's a vicious cycle
I have returned from a few days at the Penrith High Performance institute.
It must be said, the coaches there are very tough. One berated me for not being able to ride my bicycle at 80kph. I will endeavour to train harder in an attempt to meet his expectations.
The program to help you shed the last few kilos to get you down to race weight is very unorthodox but you really can't argue with the results. Just shy of a kilo a day lost. Unfortunately some of their equipment is in need of upgrade as my even my pathetic level of fitness which is unable to ride at 80kph managed to blow up their treadmill.
Footnote: It was Nepean Looney bin. I did actually have to explain to a doctor why I wasn't riding my bicycle at the speed limit on a 80kph road. If you are seeking help with your mental health I strongly recommend avoiding Nepean hospital at all costs.
It must be said, the coaches there are very tough. One berated me for not being able to ride my bicycle at 80kph. I will endeavour to train harder in an attempt to meet his expectations.
The program to help you shed the last few kilos to get you down to race weight is very unorthodox but you really can't argue with the results. Just shy of a kilo a day lost. Unfortunately some of their equipment is in need of upgrade as my even my pathetic level of fitness which is unable to ride at 80kph managed to blow up their treadmill.
Footnote: It was Nepean Looney bin. I did actually have to explain to a doctor why I wasn't riding my bicycle at the speed limit on a 80kph road. If you are seeking help with your mental health I strongly recommend avoiding Nepean hospital at all costs.
Rorschach
Didnt pay $250 for this custom title
This is the bit I’ll struggle with, getting some me time - certainly for the next few months. I enjoy getting out so going for a walk at night when things are calmer might help there. Will need to figure that out if I can’t get a regular weekend outlet.
The flip side is finding something that gets me higher than a 5/10. It might be what’s going on underneath, but I don’t find much actual joy in anything. Yeah, I’m interested in stuff I need things to stick for me. That’s what I think I need to prioritise
Flow-Rider
Burner
I see this guy out on the trail sometimes, not a friend of mine but an interesting story. He was pretty well known in the BMX scene back in the 80's.
Mr Crudley
Glock in your sock
I'm much the same. It isn't about the gnar, just getting outside in the trees and having a short holiday to forget everything.
A long road bike ride also helps but I think that won't get rated here
The lack of endorphins and no bike fun time R&R definitely makes you feel down and wonder why you bother with everything else.
Although, my new pet hate is one news stories where someone has messed up in someway then pull the 'bad for my mental health' line and seems like an overused get of gaol free card. Can't be proven conclusively and no one will push them on it. Things aren't supposed to be too easy.
Haakon
has an accommodating arse
feedback on failed job application absolute bullshit, clearly someone new to the public service and thinking a mindless box ticking exercise is more important than assessing the quality of the experience on display. They wanted the full STAR caper for 7 complex selection criteria for a complex high level policy job in two pages. wtf? 2 pages is an EOI ffs...
So its all just a crap shoot based on whatever arbitrary mood or lack of understanding the assessor has. Fucking annoying.
Time for a lap of the lake on the roadie i think before i start randomly yelling FUCK! a lot...
So its all just a crap shoot based on whatever arbitrary mood or lack of understanding the assessor has. Fucking annoying.
Time for a lap of the lake on the roadie i think before i start randomly yelling FUCK! a lot...
indica
Serial flasher
I feel you, public service STAR based interviews are bollocks. I had three days warning - working 12 hour shifts the whole time (which they new).
Flow-Rider
Burner
Depends on how many people cut you off or call you a dumb cyclist or what ever else they yell at you that makes the rest of your day cranky.A long road bike ride also helps but I think that won't get rated here
I don't know what you mean
.
Mr Crudley
Glock in your sock
Let it go sir. I know opportunities aren't easy to come by but something else will pop up. It isn't worth getting hung up over.
You only have to win one job and interviews are practice sessions for the one that you win.
Can't think of how many I've fronted up for and been strung along to lose it in the end. Disappointment is part of the process.