This thread kinda got buried, but thought I'd bring it back with a bit of an update.
Been dating a lot over the last 6 months, mostly through Tinder (this might be my problem… but, I digress). Been going on dates at least once a week, occassionally twice a week. Out of those I've had a couple of excellent dates, some good ones and some bad ones. I went on a date with a 38 year old woman because I thought it would be fun, and it was, and I had a trial by fire experience when a girl invited me to her work drinks as a first date (didn't realise it was a proper function until I turned up and had to meet and talk with everyone). I've definitely broadened my comfort zone and feel a lot more confident in the dating scene, but I'm also getting real tired of doing the 1st or 2nd dates and things going nowhere.
I had a few good leads, but they ended up going nowhere. The latest, and most recently ended, we actually decided to be bf/gf but then she changed her mind after a week saying that I surprised her and 'we didn't have enough in common.' The one before that, we went on 5 or 6 dates, but she was very hot/cold and going through some shit, so I cut it off.
Is it too much to ask for some sort of commitment/to be exclusive after 5 dates/1-2months dating?! Am I sabotaging things by only selecting from the Tinder pool, or is that just the way it goes these days? I don't think it's too much to go on 5 dates with someone and have an idea of whether or not you want to continue seeing them exclusively.
I'm back out there anyway, went to a gig with a girl last weekend and had a great time, but didn't feel like anything special. Maybe I should have a break and focus on my own stuff.